Friday, April 18, 2014


Relationships take work.  Or maybe the better word is attention.  Persistent attention.  If one becomes lackadaisical, the relationship suffers.  What we put our attention on gets stronger.  If we are persistent in making a good relationship even better day by day, week by week, year by year, the rewards will be huge.  It won't grow unless we pay attention to it. 

Are you persistent in your attention to important relationships in your life

Thursday, April 17, 2014


Being open can mean a whole lot of different things in a relationship.  There are open relationships, which for me doesn't work.  There is being open with the other person about how you feel, what your plans are, thoughts and ideas.  Then there is being open to experience something new.  We all come with baggage from the past that can taint the current situation.  Being open to the here and now can be scary, but oh so necessary.  Growth can feel pretty uncomfortable as we stretch out of our familiar patterns.  Without it though, we are stuck.  Are you stuck? Or are you flexible and open?

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Much Needed

I'm doing a combo pack for M and N here today. 
What is it that is much needed in your relationships?  I think it's so important to identify those things that are on the top of your list, and not settle for less.  No one is perfect and no relationship is without it's trials.  There are some things that you absolutely need in a partnership, and then there are those things that you can live without.  Knowing what both are can help clarify your own part in the relationship too. 

Monday, April 14, 2014


Ah! This post is very late for the letter "L."  I apologize.  Being late is not very respectful.  That goes especially for those interactions with our loved ones.  It's a wonderful thing when we can count on people to be on-time.  I do try my best to do that.  I appreciate it when others are that way too.  It shows that we are conscientious.  Sometimes things get in the way of being prompt though, so it's also important to give grace in those times.  So again, sorry for the late post, and here's to nothing getting in the way next time!

Saturday, April 12, 2014


Ahh, what is sweeter than a kiss from your sweetheart?  So many things can be felt in a kiss.  "What we give, we receive."  So, what message do you want to send through your kisses?  Love, tenderness, promise, excitement?  Think about what your message is the next time you kiss your beloved.  Are you sending out what you desire back? 


Friday, April 11, 2014


Deciding to join together with someone is an important step in being a couple.  It means there is a we, not just a you and a meIt means we have some common goals we are working towards.  It means that we watch out for each other.  "What is good for the group?" is a question that will come to mind often.  There is such grace that comes from thinking about more than just oneself.  That is one of the beautiful things about partnerships.  We get to experience so much more than if we were just by ourselves.  Again, the more we give, the more we receive.  If we can see past ourselves, a whole world opens up where we can find love, compassion, and joy.

Thursday, April 10, 2014

I Love You

I love you is such an important phrase that we tell our loved ones.  Obviously, right?  Sometimes people say, "Love you," which to me feels half-hearted.  Or that the person doesn't feel comfortable totally exposing themselves to the I part of the phrase.  I know that over the years it's taken me some time to get used to saying this phrase to people.  It's a lot easier now.  I've found that the more we allow ourselves to love others, the more love we receive.  So I encourage all of you to tell those you love that you in fact do.  And please be sure to use the "I"!