Thursday, June 19, 2014

Moment by Moment

Do you ever think about the amazing amount of moments we have in a day, week, lifetime?  It's really staggering to think about.  At any given time we have all kinds of opportunities to choose how we will live that moment.  I wish I could say I'm really good at making the best of every moment, but the truth is I've still got a lot to learn, and I get tired.  "Life is hard" as my friend said to me the other day.  And I guess it is if you are truly in it with both feet living each moment.  I'm thinking maybe,  "It's hard, but not bad."  What's hard is not detaching but being aware enough to be consciously choosing how to live that moment.  That can be tiring, but then again, maybe that's what naps are for.


Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Your Zone

When we are in a relationship our zones are connected.  We each have one of our own to maintain, but we also have places where the zones overlap.  Those areas can truly be magical.  Think about how two energies focused on the same thing can improve its power exponentially.  I'm picturing a lush garden full of life and vibrant colors.  We are not meant to have our zones never touch others.  We are meant to connect up and create new, wonderful, dynamic combinations!

What magic have you created with your significant other lately?

Monday, April 28, 2014


How long has it been since you've written these symbols to your loved one?  I love to see them on a note or a text.  XXOO kisses and hugs!  Two very important things to keep alive in a relationship.  Do you remember when you first learned what those symbols meant?  It was a simpler time perhaps.  I like thinking about that.  It helps bring things back into perspective when life seems overwhelming. 

Saturday, April 26, 2014


I like thinking of situations as win-win.  I think the more we can do that the happier we will be.  Sure, we all want to win, but what if we could all win?  Wouldn't that be awesome!  Relationships take compromise.  That doesn't mean though that there is a winner and a loser.  Even though we are compromising, we can still come out of a situation feeling great.  Like a winner.  The compromise can even be better than what we would have chosen on our own.  The sum being greater than the parts.  How cool is that?! 
Do you have examples in your relationships where you've experienced a win-win?

Friday, April 25, 2014


Everyone has value, but sometimes we forget this, and at times we even forget the value of our significant other.  We get caught up in our own stuff and we forget what a unique and special person we've chosen to be our partner on this journey.  What do you value about your significant other?  What can you do today to show them how much you value them? 

Thursday, April 24, 2014


What most people really want is to be understood.  How great is it then when we can join with another person and trust them to understand us.  Granted sometimes we don't even understand ourselves, but that's where others come in handy as well.  They can help us to see the things that we can't or won't.  How often when conflict arises is misunderstanding the culprit?  Quite often.  If we would really step back and understand where the other person is coming from there would be a much greater chance for empathy, communication, love, and resolution.  Do you and your significant other work to understand each other?  Sometimes it's not easy, and we have to put our own stuff aside.  It's so worth it though. 

Wednesday, April 23, 2014


Touch is one of those things that some people take for granted, and others can't get enough of.  It's also something that everyone needs.  I've heard it said that we need 12 hugs a day to thrive, and something like 8 just to survive.  For some who are lucky enough to have an environment where hugs are plentiful, this is great.  For others though who live alone, aren't in a significant relationship, or are physically disabled, getting 12 hugs a month would be a treat.  There have been many times in my own life where touch was not readily available.  I count myself extremely lucky these days to be with someone who likes to give and receive touch as much as I do.  I feel like we are both making up for lost time.  Whether you are in a relationship where you are getting the touch you need or not, I encourage everyone to be more aware of the touch given and received.  Is there someone in your life who you think is not getting enough touch?  Please reach out, literally, to them.  And make sure your significant other is getting plenty of your loving touches as well.